“Every time you evolve, you lose something. You lose what you hold onto to stay safe. You lose the habits with which you feel comfortable, you lose the familiar.“
Through the process of psychotherapy, people usually look for ways to change parts of themselves, but without taking into account the importance of these. They also find it difficult to understand but also to accept the fundamental importance of the past and the experiences they have experienced, as well as their connection to the present. But what we have experienced and especially what we have believed in ourselves, are the building bricks with which we have built our Self. So if in our attempt to change, we start removing one brick at a time, without first having worked on how and what created them, we will lose our balance, we may even collapse. It takes time and patience to create new bricks, in order to replace the malfunctioning ones. It requires internal processes, often painful. The work of the psychotherapist is to hold the remaining bricks so that they do not fall down when we take one out of its position to examine it. Somewhat like those iron frames that used to be put on the doors when they were made, so that the wall would not be torn down.